Women’s Development

Building Personal Confidence

A lack of confidence and low self-esteem are two of the most common themes raised with me by women in coaching or personal development conversations.

Confidence is a state of mind, something that we project to others, what we want them to see; whereas self-esteem is how we feel. If you are in business, whether working for yourself or others, personal confidence will impact on your business success. People buy from confident people, if you don’t have confidence in yourself, your product or your services, performance will suffer. Poor performance then breeds low confidence … it’s a vicious circle!

It is generally believed that far more women than men, put their successes down to luck, the work of others, or just being in the right place at the right time. A recent YouGov survey reported that women are less likely than men to ask for promotions and are more likely to cite factors such as lack of confidence or gender as barriers to progression. Women it appears worry more about their ability and regularly assume that they will eventually be found to be incompetent… enter ‘The Imposter Syndrome’.

First written of in 1978, by the clinical psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzann Imes, ‘The Imposter Syndrome’ has been defined as:- “The psychological experience of believing that one’s accomplishments came about not through genuine ability, but as a result of having been lucky, having worked harder than others, or having manipulated other people impressions.”

You don’t need to look far for evidence of the syndrome at work…

Sheryl Sandberg - Facebook - “There are still days when I wake up feeling a fraud, not sure I should be where I am”.

Liz Bingham, managing partner at EY recalls thinking - “What are you doing here? What do you think you are doing? You’re going to be found out.”

Clearly, it is far healthier for you, better for your business and your private life, if you can manage this doubt and display a greater level of self confidence to others. So, the big question is, can you really do anything to meaningfully change your personal confidence levels? As Bob the Builder would say…Yes, you can!

One of the most effective ways to improve confidence is to get into the habit of recognising and celebrating your achievements. It is far more difficult to adopt a negative view of your own abilities when you are constantly presented with examples of your own successes. The Celebr8 Success™ model of personal development sets out a framework of attitudes to adopt and steps to follow to help you discover your true potential. To find out more about how you can increase your confidence and fulfil your potential visit our website www.successfulwomen.training.

Contact me by email : gill@successfulwomen.training or call: 07584258628.

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